Aspie girls and women are incredibly vulnerable to having bad sexual experiences with men, whether or not they are interested in pursuing dating and sexual relationships.
This may be partly because, as teenagers, Aspie girls are often not part of the social groups where their non-spectrum peers learn the "rules" that are vital to their physical and emotional safety in society. Debi Brown has written this important book to fill the resulting knowledge gap--how to interact safely with men--to help other Aspie girls and women avoid common pitfalls and potentially dangerous situations.
This is essential reading for every girl and woman on the autism spectrum, from age 13 upwards. Appreciating that Aspies need explanations to be explicit and comprehensive, Debi Brown provides sound, practical strategies for staying safe in many different situations, sensitively yet honestly explaining what the Aspie's rights and choices are, and how to act on her choices to stay safe. Clear, unambiguous advice is given on abstract issues, including the importance of boundaries and how to recognize and report inappropriate or abusive behavior. Strategies for improving self-esteem and for overcoming and healing from negative experiences are also included.
This must-read guide for the first time spells out the unwritten safety rules around dating, relationships and sex, and will inform and empower Aspie girls and women to live full and independent lives while staying safe. It will also be a source of valuable insights and advice for the parents, professionals and anyone else involved in loving and supporting these girls and women.
From the foreword by Sarah Attwood, author of Making Sense of Sex: A Forthright Guide to Puberty, Sex and Relationships for People with Asperger's Syndrome:
"As an Aspie herself, Debi Brown has written warmly, startlingly honestly and from a position of knowledge.... She has understood the fundamental truth, that to ensure a girl's safety, it is vital to educate her.... Debi doesn't use innuendo or assume knowledge on the part of the reader... She lays it bare, and when it all gets too difficult (some of the subject matter is deeply challenging), she envelops you warmly with reassurances and kind words. You feel as though you are sitting having a heart-to-heart chat with your best friend. This beautifully written book should be essential reading for all young women, not just Aspies."
"Many female Aspies will identify with the sense of uncertainty and vulnerability surrounding sexuality and relationships, which Debi Brown conveys with great sensitivity and honesty. Like a reassuring friend, she guides readers through a carefully structured series of 'rules' about social support, intimate relationships and safety. Written with tremendous warmth, this book gives indispensable advice for females with Asperger syndrome, as well as being enlightening for parents, like me. I particularly enjoyed the personal experiences and insights Debi shared."--Kate E Reynolds, counsellor, autism mother and author of Party Planning for Children and Teens on the Autism Spectrum and Sexuality and Severe Autism (forthcoming)
Debi Brown is a 33 year old woman with Asperger syndrome. She has a post-graduate certificate in Autism from the University of Strathclyde, Scotland, and is an autism author, speaker and educator. She lives in Glasgow, Scotland.
176 pages. 2013